Realistic Approach to Peacemaking
    - How to Initiate, Maintain and Sustain an Enduring Peaceful Relationship?


    2. Approach – Simple and Commonsensical


      When we are not happy with someone or something, what should we do?  Life experience has taught us what we should do; that is to
    clearly identify, understand, and inquest the following three questions:

    1.  Who are we?
    2.  Who or what is someone or something that we are unhappy with?
    3.  What is the real face or nature of that someone or something that made or has made us         
        unhappy?


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    2.1
    Who are we?

      We are the accumulation of our own past, including inherent genetic inheritance, the result of upbringing in the family, the outcome of
    education, and the experience in living over lifetime. Through a careful examination on this question, we should be able to easily assess
    and realize what are the quality and quantity of our spiritual and physical value, ability, and capacity in managing all the required events of
    daily life and living. The possession of the acquired spiritual and physical value, ability, and capacity enables us to interact with our
    internal and external environments and to detect what it can be good or bad for us, that is, the sense of need.  From there, an action takes
    place to bring in something spiritually and physically to satisfy our momentary and situational need under a circumstance. The variation
    in the difference of our past clearly reflects in the observation of the difference in individual behavioral patterns in response to a reality
    circumstance at different time and location.


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    2.2        
    Who or what is someone or something that we are unhappy with?

      Unhappiness results from a failure in effectively and successfully managing daily events of life and living.  The affairs occurring in
    family, marriage, friendship, society, nation, and the world may reward or hurt someone's feelings through the process of bringing in the
    success or failure in managing life. All these occurrences comprise the contents of our life.  In fact, the need and activities for fulfilling the
    matters of food and sex life display the beauty and ugliness of life at personal and social levels everywhere in the world.  To address the
    issue of with what or whom you are not happy, first, we have to look into some details of facts and truth of life as discussed in the
    following chapter 3 – What is Life?


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    2.3
    What is the real face or nature of someone or something that made or has made us unhappy?

      The contents of life and living in family, marriage, church, association, organization, institution, government, and the world are always
    parts of individual life. Therefore, it is essential to know what are the origin, function, and goal of a relationship; each of them is unique.  
    Despite its individual uniqueness, the origin, function, and goal of a relationship remains very the same, that is, to meet the need for an
    entity to survive, grow, and continue, if any possible, indefinitely. To review the items as listed in the following chapter, you should be able
    to capture a bird eye’s view of the origin, function, and goal of a relationship.

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